Be it a debate forum or a street row, it is observed that each one of the participants (or opponents) feels right at his/her stance, takes on the activity as a matter of right, and sometimes even tends to forc-ify his/her standing on the issue as the final one. This tells us that ‘relativity’ is the life-blood to interactions and difference of opinion is the most particular trait of human beings. Each one of us bears a set of principles and a nucleus of thoughts that is an upshot of many a factors, notably background, brought-up, basic concepts, education, experiences, qualification, objectives and circumstances. These principles and thoughts are also the outcome of processes those are perpetual, behind the scene and characterizing our unconscious and subconscious minds. These ‘frames of references’ thus make it possible to think, act and react independently and relatively.
Quite interestingly, when it comes to “its-the-viewpoint-that-matters”, same events bring out different versions, same things end up into different meanings and same people behave differently in same sets of conditions. The diversity of aspects and values therefore matters in life more than variable resources. When we look deep into the participative psyche-state, it comes out that everyone is subject to ‘inertia’ to some extent, if not completely. As a matter of fact, after the existence of matter, its inertia is the biggest reality. Each one of us feels home at The (very) Point (in terms of some reference system) and doesn’t like being un-stabilized through any unbalancing thought or action. To almost everyone, his/her own way of looking at the things IS The Way and the rest is not worth.
Question arises as to what absolute righteousness is, and what is that lays down the foundation of being right anyway? Moreover, what is the acid test to this effect? Is righteousness related to the cause or the effect? What do we mean by inter-active relativity?
Although the answers to all these questions require deep insight and outlook towards life, the key is nothing but to know as to ‘how to live’.
[Time wasted is existence; used is life. Also, a life spent is something different from a life lived. Similarly, time passed is much in disproportion with time utilized. To live is not to be alive biologically, but to make a presence felt; and that too, beyond generalities.]
Back in Public School days, my valued English Tutor passed-on a prayer that had the answer of almost everything: it said, “God! Grant me with the serenity to accept what I cannot change, the courage to change what I can, and the wisdom to know the difference…”
Life has many meanings, each with a definitive significance. While the famine condition ends up into things like two plus two equals four bread-loafs, the surroundings and scenario is just as important as our own self. The above-mentioned prayer marks the boundaries of influence in a wonderfully explicit manner. The area of influence is well defined and well conceived too, with the “acquisition of wisdom” being the punch line.
Art of living is to think and feel in others’ place; and to make ’em do vice versa. Obviously, the former is more important in all cases. The basic theme is to know and understand that every one has a say which is not everyone’s say. Each viewpoint, comment or remark draws importance from the way it is conceived, the background it bears, the scenario it engulfs, the magnitude it possesses and the directions it aims at. This at one place explains the acceptance of each other as alive, thoughtful and sociable human beings, and rationalizes the need for cross-inputs to be taken for every point and issue on the other.
Every person is a different person and WILL look at same things differently. What matters is not as to how someone reacts to a certain set of conditions, nor the course that he follows through, not even what he ends up at. It is about how he takes it all as. The grasp and therefore awareness of situation weighs much; the recognition of people as people and not heads or statistics does more; and the appreciation of value attributed to each individual does the most. We happen to listen terms like empathy, consideration, compassion and concern in the same context. It is therefore, much substantial to tend to understand before we intend to be understood.
When we carry on with empathy towards others, we in-fact feature ourselves with the supreme art of living. The beauty of interactions is best displayed when those reflect the pinnacle of associations and connections between and amongst humans. This principle thus being the basis of looking at the things as the things are (and not as we ourselves are) helps to live better, sustain relations and contacts and most importantly concludes into win/win states of affairs.
To respect each other’s viewpoint is more of significance than to respect each other’s presence/status. To earn a better life, the primary challenges are to know most basic ‘Whys’ that we happen to find every now and then. Answers to these ‘Whys’ lay nowhere but in the strength of our own self to control our reactions and to look into the things in a better, broader sense. This of course is very difficult to go about, but you see what on earth is easy and yet rewarding…