“Some ppl have it harder than others I know and realize but some have to suffer more than others. Sometimes it is at the cost of something better down the road but no one knows at the very moment why things are going haywire for him/her.
Some situations are unavoidable and no matter how hard one prays for one thing not to happen, it is meant to happen and there is nothing one can do about that when it does….it is unfortunate but it is the reality of life.”
Dilemma of ‘Taqdeer’ and ‘Tadbeer’ has been, is and always will be the hardest thing to chew, swallow and digest.
It has been debated upon, researched and deliberated upon over thousands of times, over hundreds of years, by millions of people. It has perspectives as many as you can think, and has almost equal number of confusions, if not more.
As per my understanding, two verses of Soorah Al Yusuf clarify the concept like none else….
Recall the “Ahsan-ul-Qisus”, when Hazrat Yaqoob (AS) advised his sons to adopt a different strategy (the second time when they planned to go to the capital city). The aayaat go like:
“And he said: “O my sons! Do not enter by one gate, but enter by different gates, and I cannot avail you against Allah at all. Verily! The decision rests only with Allah. In him, I put my trust and let all those that trust, put their trust in Him. And when they entered according to their father’s advice, it did not avail them in the least against (the Will of) Allah, it was but a need of Ya’qub’s (Jacob) inner-self which he discharged. And verily, he was endowed with knowledge because We had taught him, but most men know not. [Soorah Al Yusuf : 67-68]
The amount of our latitude and the extent of our reach in time and space is our taqdeer. Simply put, it is the Will of Allah.
The tadbeer is no doubt, the human angle of looking at and manipulating the same thing. As Hazrat Yaqoob (AS) advised them. But as the later aayat puts it, his tadbeer and the son’s related act ended up to be of no use to them, because Allah had not planned so.
The most important part comes after that. The aayat makes it clear that the tadbeer is what our inner self thinks and acts, and certainly is constrained in time and space, as well as in wisdom, application, understanding and results. It goes on to tell us that Hazrat Yaqoob (AS) was well-aware of this fact – being a Prophet of God – yet he advised his sons, as to plan and act as per one’s own understanding and objectivity is mandatory. The aayat culminates its message in the words that “most people” do not appreciate this fact.
In the course of learning, the aayat also tells us the Prophets (and also the people close to Allah – through piety and good acts) understand these things, while most others do not.
A related quote “Khush qismat wo hai, jo apni qismat par khush hai” is a line entrenched with a deep thought, which is probably easy to appreciate but difficult to practice.
We all are limited in time (the years of life bestowed onto us) and space (the universe known to us). Allah has no bounds of time, space, directions, and anything and everything that we can think of (as our thinking is also bestowed with certain limitations). Therefore, the best practice to understand is from divine text (Quran), and the divine examples (Prophets AS and righteous people).