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Friend’sMailz – Of the cities….

Karachi is my first love…. (and Northern Pakistan, both my heaven and haven)..

I happened to enter this wonderful city in 1996 for the first time…. We used to say, “jinnhein Lhor naeen vekhiya, oh jammiya ee naeen….” (“See Lahore to see life, to open your eyes, to be born….”) ….. Deep-rooted Punjaabis that we were, we used to own this statement… Well, I saw Karachi and found myself… 🙂

Every place and person that I had the fortunate opportunity to relate to, was an inspiration. This side (Karachi-ites call it a collective term: ‘Punjab’) sure is a world of traditions, relations, values and longings….. Karachi gave me a feeling to sum it up all. I found it a city of life, hope, activity, balance, happiness and energy…. (as regards their comparison with Lahorites, I must stick to your viewpoint… 😛 ……. And no I’d better be silent…. 😀 ….)

Places…. Hmmmmm… So many, so many that I can not recall now……. For the love of taste and fun and picnic, let me recall some of the best…….
Do Darya (esp Kolachi)….. Boating Basin (so many points)… Khadda Market… Saba Commercial.. Jami Commercial…. Touheed Commercial…. Bahadurabad…. Dhora Ji / Sindhi Muslim…. Tariq Road…. Super Highhway (till Hyderabad, and then, the famous Bombay Bakers’ cake of Hyderabad)…. Arena… Carlton and Area 51 (used to be great at one time)….. DHA Creek Club… DHA Sunset Club…. DHA Marina Club….. Sea View…. NORE….. Muhammad Ali Society…… Karsaz…. PAF Museum…. Maritime Museum….. Malir Cantt…. Zamzama….. Schon Circle…. University Road….. Dream World Resort…. Old Airport (now Hajj Terminal) Canteen…. New Airport…. Hyper Star…. Atrium…. Liaqat Village Beach…. Manora, esp the light house besides Pakistan Naval Academy……. Sandspit…… Nathiyagali Beach…. And the legendry Sunday Bazaar of DHA (which I’ve heard, is now closed)……. Well, there are so many places…

Two tenures full of accomplishments, fun and remembrances… God bless the place with peace and harmony, something which is improving by the day, and will even better in years to come inshaAllah.

Yes, many FM members live there too…. This would have been an excellent idea, especially when we have had gatherings back in days of MsnPakistan…..at Karachi and Lahore….. Well, people now a days are “emoticon-ically” social… They better send across smilies…. 🙂 ….. World is becoming a smart-work. The other day I asked a candidate about what is a ‘simile’ (he was studying in BS English programme at a reputed university), he replied, “It is in Whatsapp and FB and in almost every online key-board..”… Lololz..

Its been ages that I posted or checked FM… Probably, my account also has been ceased… The FS (which Amir and team) made as the next step was a rainbow again… However, it also does not shine on the web now… Time has made everyone busy and its a fact that carrying on with such an arrangement in our routine lives is a challenge…

Well, whenever you are here next time, ask me of the places / recommendations again, and I’d double the list… 🙂 ….. Have in the mean time, explored some more, really good travel destinations in Punjab and in KP and at Karachi… If you ask of hospitality, I’d suggest you go to rural Punjaab / KPK, and especially Hunza, Skardu and beyond….. I have experienced big hearts in small settlements across whole Northern Pakistan…. May be coz they are not that much of “taiz”, as you put it…
Seems, “taiziyaan” is opposite to relationships.

Stay blessed….

Friend’sMailz – “Just like that….”

We all want to stop the time. But in the end, it transpires that like everything else, time was also not in our control…….(like everything else) we had been thinking it was… 🙂

Time waits for no one. It is may be not vicious, but it is sure, unforgiving. They say, the time you realize your father was right, you have a son who thinks you are wrong. Interesting it is, as mush as its true and relevant. Not long ago, we looked forward to graduate, and now, we look up to our kids’ graduate from schools and then in majors.

Parenting teaches us so much, that grey hair don’t… The kid always remains a kid. My grandfather had always called my father as “kaka”.. He was his kaka till the end. Our relationships stop us in time & space, and in heart & mind. The graduated kid is still Mommy’s sweetheart and Daddy’s munchkin. On eve of passing out of flyers, one of the Mothers said, “Kiddo, please fly low and slow…..”. That’s one way of saying “I love you my dear”….

Our relationships, longings, attachments and contacts are the manifestations of our love, care and concern for people. You are right, today we do not see each other other than occasions (nor do we expect – frankly speaking!). This is the amount of gross absence of love around us. The indifference is in the air. Gone are the days when we met just to keep in touch, visited just to keep the relations warm, talked just to communicate and express, and connected just to care. Our inventions (watches, clocks, planners, calendars and schedulers) are now dictating us to make “use” of our time, and infusing us with the wisdom that surpasses intangibles like a word of care, a hand of pat, a shoulder to cry on, and a kiss of good-bye. Today, the love is in the movies, the care is in the advertisements, the concern is in the breaking news, the connectivity is on social media, and the communications is in the gadgets.

Then is the complaining part… This again was never there before.
More often than not, we hear things like “You have just vanished…… You’ve got busy…. You don’t come over now…”. The interesting part in all these conversations is that its always “you” who doesn’t meet up.. 🙂

Lucky is he who has the friends and relations and contacts who meet him out of blue, just like that, in surprise visits and without an agenda. Well, most people are not. The social values therefore are converging towards self-centered approach. Islam leads us here: “The best of Deen is, when you say salaam and feed to everyone that you know, or do not….” [Hadees e Rasool, PBUH – Bukhari, Kitaab ul Eemaan]

Across the history, our saints and elders just did that. Today, if we want to connect to people just like that, we must pay them compliments and feast them just like that. As you said, it is a wonderful feeling when you met people just like that…

Being on a school council is a matter of accomplishment, remembrance and honour….infact, a legacy. Amongst the best moments of parenting are when you see your kid for the first time, when you see him take his first step, when you see him performing well in school. A life well-spent is evident from a capable next-generation, who are ready to take on challenges of life, are resilient to face odds, have a heart (literally 🙂 ), recognize the world and the after-world.

My prayer for our kids:
“May Allah bless you with the best of everything and everyone. May you be a guiding light and a righteous beacon for at least one person on this earth. May you be amongst the people who matter to the world, and not to whom the world matters… Aameen.”

Friend’sMailz – Duniya ko hai phir ma’rka e rooh-o-badan paish…..

“And on top of everything else, the years, the months, the days, the hours, the minutes and seconds are just passing us by…’

Yes. But no..

Each day and week and month passes just like a click. In the end of times, it is supposed to be so; well, I take it personally. Each one of us is spending time, not gaining it. Thus, when we add a year to our life on our birthday, we actually get a year younger, not older…. That’s pretty perspective based, but its true, and it has been said by none else but Hazrat Imam Hassan (RA). In the end, the earthly life stops, we enter into the next world, the eternal world. At that moment in time (and even in years close to our final call), we realize that it was not the quantity of years in life those counted. It was the quality of life in years that counted. Most of us waste our life by being in the wrong lane, bus, train or flight. The last regrets are usual of the sorts, and rightly so..

Well I think, the amount of quality time has decreased not due to technology, but due to us – ourselves. PCs and TVs and social media do not tell us to keep clinging to them, nor do those ruin our time management. Its a personal affair. Similarly, we hear things of the sort that “ab to naiki ka zamaana hi nahin raha” or “bai-barkatee ka dour hai”…. Well, everything has perspective, reasons, causes… Everything is NOT an effect. Some are fruits. Fruits of our priorities, our longings and our decisions.

The fast-lane we are in, makes us lose grip of details, ability to absorb and capacity to understand. We tend to gulp everything down, and remain shallow in the end. The information has become a fast food. The thought process has diminished. The intelligent now think smart-work is the key to everything. Optimization has been replaced by maximization. Values are being replaced by cost, price and profit of things, relations and people. Media Industry (an oxymoron in itself) is the forerunner to the (dis)information-age. There was a time when kids used to get educated at schools and colleges. Now they get qualified. Obviously, the technology did not do it to us. We had our own hand-grips, thumbs and fingers on the keyboards, key-pads and play-stations.

Yours and my generation has lived its half-line of life, and is moving towards the last-quarter fast. We feel we have so much to do in so less a time….

Itni lambi umer main kiya kiya na kar chuknay ki dhunn
Itni chhotti umer mein kuch bhi na kar saknay ka dar

The time moves fast, but then each day we are given 24 hrs of time, which does not go faster than our thoughts, imaginations and acts. You are right about future in the sense that it is vague, uncertain and may be full of smoke (in Pakistan). May be yes. But then, the future was always like that. It was and is supposed to be like that. Regarding Pakistan, I see an opportunity in the making. People now talk about change more than ever. They are going to get good leadership Insha-Allah. Things will change. Unlike most world nations, we did not get this country through an armed struggle or a blood-stained revolution or a mutiny or simple cut-into-pieces’ cake or through forceful conversions or a sham UN resolution or by forceful oppression and rooting out of locals… We got it in the name of Allah, and on the basis of Kalma-e-Tayyaba.

Yes, people are impatient, anxious, depressed… Yes, they play foul. But then, here we have people like Dr Adeeb ul Hasan and Dr Amjad Saqib also.

I assure you, when you come over to Pakistan next time, I’d take you to at least three of such islands of excellence, which will make you believe that the change is coming.

And, when you think of Pakistan next time, do pray + tune the PTV Home or International, and not the Musharraf-media (the media “freed” or must I say: unleashed…..)

Stay blessed…


Words of worth for a commander….of worth

“Not many commanders and supervisors have the ability to really win-over hearts and minds. Few have the attribute to inspire in odd times. Fewer still have the gifts of empathy and accountability, justice and compassion, productivity and efficiency – all together.

It’s our heartfelt pleasure to observe all the three in you……”

[Korangi Creek – 2009]

A tribute to the tributes….

It is a general understanding that the value of a relationship cannot be put in words.

Well, we have some excellent tributes to relationships – which glow and glitter, just like the relations. And after reading, feeling and living these tributes, I must say that a relationship can be expressed in words. We just have to be more lucky, more expressive and more related… 🙂

God bless the souls who have written these, and even more for whom these have been written.























Friend’sMailz – Nagri nagri phira musaafir, ghar ka rasta bhool giya….

Time has changed us.
As the time passes, the luxuries are turning into necessities, or are at least perceived to be as such.

We are becoming short on quality time.

There were days when we used to send and receive letters. The envelopes, postal stamps, one odd telephone line around, ink-pens, and the list goes on.
Today, we have everything better, bigger and more, and yet we are busy into complex and difficult schedules of life, don’t find time to drop by friends, have to prepare ourselves (and the other side, by being ‘courteous’ to “call” before calling in) and have to ‘prioritize’ activities versus people versus interests versus prospects…

Yes, life is changed.

Meeting people on a casual note is no more different from making an official appointment. The gadgetry (meant to keep us close) has managed to create distances. Very few have survived the information ‘revolution’, and have been able to successfully keep their social, harmonious values.

In the “information age”, every other news is a false news (refer http://www.snopes.com). Every action and response is double-worded / acted, hypocritical and dual-faces are a normal thing. The other day I sent out a text “salaam” to all my contact-list. The response was so interesting. Almost 80 percent were worried if all was well with me, yet they inquired about my ‘well-being’ through a text only.. 🙂

Even with you, I have been long out of contact. Its some years now, that we had those carefree chats, calls and emails. You and I have been more than busy, more than ever. Yet, you find time to find me, get me out of my life’s (dis)comfort, and I end up in sending you an email and a blog-mail (that’s what I call it)… My blog-readers and followers might at first think it as just another post, but that’s just another letter to you… 🙂 …..

You were right…”The thrill and excitement of receiving actual mail in the mailbox from a friend or an acquaintance was so much more valuable and precious….the feeling was different and for those ‘now primitive methods’ or ‘so-called old-fashioned methods’ no one has the time….”

The cards and printed greeting make me happy. I send cards (and sometimes receive also) and letters. And my office Runners would think of me as an old-timer / alien, when they send my mail. Well, the time has really changed us.. 🙂

“Why has modern technology made us so lazy?”

It was aimed at making our lives easier, which it has.
The issue is with “ease”. The ease is simply not the solution to our problems. The solution is more toil, hard-work and energies put-in. It is about roughness and toughness, both physical and mental. Quite interestingly, theory of evolution insists on “survival of the fittest”, and it comes from nowhere but the West, the torch-bearer of all the technology and popular culture, where we don’t have time to burn calories, the calories accumulated over a time-wasted watching TV screens….. So everything has its flip side.
The bottom line is: whatever does not have balance, is not good. Be it ease, diet, love, religion or passion. Be it anything and everything.

Balance is the beauty of life. To some, it is the reason of existence… ~ Zindagi kiya hai, anaasir mein zahoor e tarteeb…. Mout kiya hai, inhee ajzaa ka pareshaan hona..

Your emails over the years have helped me think, act and groom myself into a better person. Yes, life has changed, so has the world……but I am happy that some people like you, do not change… 🙂 ….or if they do, its for the better.

Stay blessed.